The human mind is a very powerful tool, and if it used properly you will see miracles happening around you.
This motivational video shows how you can change your life by taking decisions and action within 5 seconds.
Motivational Video: Change Your Life in 5 Seconds by Retraining Your Mind
Speakers:
Mel Robbins
Tim Grover
Transcripts of the Video:
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You can know what you want, you can know what you should be doing,
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but how do you make yourself do it when the feelings and the motivation isn’t there?
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When all you got is fear.
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You can always control what you think and how you behave.
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And we spend way too much time trying to focus on manipulating how we feel about things,
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and not enough time practising the skills of controlling your behaviour and your thoughts.
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A lot of us are sitting around waiting to feel ready, waiting to feel courageous, waiting to feel confident,
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waiting for the right time and that’s not ever coming. Ever. Ever.
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You’re not gonna change your life up here. You only change it through action.
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We make decisions of feelings. 95% of our decisions are made by how you feel in the moment.
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And that is the problem. You need to take control of the moment.
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We all have that ability. We all have next level ability. There is not other people that are holding you back.
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Your boss isn’t holding you back. Your parents aren’t holding you back. Those are excuses.
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To me, there is no such thing as luck. Okay?
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All luck is, preparation meeting opportunity. Plain and simple.
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You have to be ready, prepared for that situation.
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Like you think that you need to feel confident or courageous in order to get started.
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You don’t. You actually just have to start and that’s the riddle of life.
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That lying in bed, hoping that you wake up some morning motivated and changed. That’s not the answer.
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You actually have to learn how to push yourself. You have to learn how to leverage the power of your decisions
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and you’ve gotta learn how to take action when you don’t feel like.
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You have to be prepared to take any and every opportunity that’s presented to you. Alright?
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Nothing is just gonna happen.
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But people don’t wanna hear the truth. Cause the truth hurts.
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But you grow from pain. You really, you really do.
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You can’t know how to deal with success, you can’t know how to deal with failures,
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You can’t know how to deal with the bumps in the road that if you haven’t had a taste of everything.
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And once you remember that bitter taste in your mouth, you never wanna feel that again.
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You can’t control the things that trigger you and the fact that you’re gonna feel afraid and you’re gonna feel doubt
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and you’re gonna feel uncertain but you can always interrupped that feeling and take control in the moment
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and actually shift what you’re thinking and shift how you behave.
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There is a 5 second window. Between the instincts, the shoulds, the urges, the inner wisdom.
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The things that can change your life if you listen to it.
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Got a 5 second window from the moment you feel that instinct to move.
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And if you don’t, your brain is actually designed to kill it.
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5 seconds is all you have.
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The second you hesitate and you feel yourself hesitating, that is a moment of huge power
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because what’s happened is you’ve just started to pull back from something that you need to lean into
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and if you count backwards: five, four, three,two, one
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and then this is the neuroscience behind why the stupid little trick works.
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Counting is an action. Counting backward requires focus.
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It’s also not a habit for you then, so when you feel yourself hesitate,
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you’re triggering your mind that something’s up.
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Your mind now goes into a cognitive bias called the spotlight effect.
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It magnifies whatever it was that you hesitated doing.
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Like all of the sudden, you’re like “Eh, I don’t feel like it. Like I don’t know, maybe I’ll do it later.”
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And your mind is doing it because your mind is trying to protect you.
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Hesitation signals a red flag to your mind that something’s up.
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Just that small hesitation it’s a habit that we all have.
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Should you hesitate if you’re getting a tattoo? Yes.
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Should you hesitate if you’re gambling? Yes.
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Should you hesitate if you are signing a legal document? Yes.
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You need your prefrontal cortex for those things.
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You need to interrupt it to make a decision.
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Should you hesitate in making a phone call? No.
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Should you hesitate on speaking up in a meeting? No.
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Should you hesitate when you feel yourself starting to procrastinate
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and you know you have work that it should get done?
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No. You shouldn’t hesitate at all.
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Should you hesitate in saying the thing you really feel in your heart? No.
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You shouldn’t.
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Should you hesitate in edit yourself and your talk?
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No. You shouldn’t.
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But we’ve all trained ourselves to.
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So it’s actually this habits of hesitating, you start catching yourself, it’s a huge moment of power because you have a decision to make
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and you gotta make it in the next 5 seconds.
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Or you’re gonna go on autopilot and get trapped in your mind or are you going 5, 4, 3, 2, 1
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and awaken your prefrontal cortex and drive forward.
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Everything matters.
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If you take any situation and just take the word “only” and take the word “just” out of it
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it changes the whole phrase.
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It’s just a game.
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It’s a game. It’s only a job.
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If you feel like this is only a job before this interview is up, I advise you to get up and leave right now.
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Cause there’s somebody else who’ll fill these seats up and take that job and turn it into a career.
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Be careful of those words, trap words.
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I’m just gonna smoke one cigarette.
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That shows you their preparation for a mental standpoint of how weak they really are.
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There’s a lot of people that are just “a something”. There are very few people that are “the something”.
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So when people introduce myself as a trainer, I’m like “No, I’m not A trainer, I am THE trainer.
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It’s a huge difference.
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So self-doubt, worry, procrastination, overthinking, analysis paralysis, fear
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those are all thinking patterns that are habits.
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One of the most important things that I want people to understand is that you’re actually not a warrior.
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You have a habit of a warrior.
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Big difference.
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You’re not a procrastinator. You have a habit of procrastinating.
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Big difference.
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Every one of those behavior patterns and thinking patterns can actually be interrupted
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and replaced using science.
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You can use a simple trick.
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The moment you feel yourself hesitate, the moment you’ve got one of those moments where you
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know that you need, this is that moment that Lewis talks you about where you gotta step outside of your comfort zone
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and you gotta lean into your passion and you’ve gotta really take some risks, and you gotta feel the fear
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and you gotta do it anyway.
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That’s the moment where you just woke up
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And know you got a decision to make.
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Are you gonna drift back into the habits or you’re going to awaken your prefrontal cortex
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and drive forward and focus and do something new?
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Do you feel like making that cold call? No, you don’t.
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Do you feel like doing that third set of reps? No, you don’t.
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Do you feel like having that hard conversation? No, you don’t.
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Do you feel like ending this relationship whether is in business or in your life that is sucking you dry?
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No, you don’t.
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We make decisions based on our feelings and that is robbing you of joy and opportunity.
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And it is blinding you from the fact that how you change your life is one five second decision at a time.
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One push at a time.
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And if you, if you accept the fact that you may never feel ready and you may never feel motivated
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and you may never feel confident, you may never feel courageous and that’s okay, but you can still push yourself forward
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What happens over time is as you start to see yourself becoming the person that takes action
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you start to see yourself becoming the kind person that speaks even though your voice is shaking
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or the kind of person that has a bias toward moving instead of a bias toward thinking, guess what happens?
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You build the skill of confidence and courage.
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It’s working for people around the world and you know, in the book, it took me three years to write it
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It’s all the science behind the rule, it’s got more than 150 social media posts in it so you see
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stories from around the world of people using it to end procrastination, to build confidence, to deepen their relationships
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to launch businesses.
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There’s only one “you” and there will only ever be one you
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so make sure that you listen to what your heart is saying and always do that.
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I would say you can change your life in 5 seconds and the moment that you feel the instinct to act
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count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 then go.
